Do you know women who can only talk about getting the latest fashionable clothes? They are getting in and out of the clothes shops and browsing the internet to understand the latest trends. Almost every week you can see them in a new piece of clothing. Their wardrobes and houses are so full of things that you feel as if you were walking in a warehouse. They don’t care about the money. It seems as if they are working only for shopping.
Well, I know one. I want to talk about her. Let’s call her Jane.
Who is Jane?
Jane is an intelligent woman in her middle 30s. She has two diplomas working as an interpreter for a company. Jane likes her job, earns good money, and is very talkative and friendly. Everybody loves her because she always has something interesting to say.
Jane has never been married and doesn’t have any children. She has a boyfriend once in a while but hasn’t had a serious relationship. Jane is searching for a husband with whom she can spend the rest of her life, but she hasn’t found him yet. She hopes to find him soon because she doesn’t want to be alone forever. So, it is understandable why she feels lonely and depressed most of the time. Her goal is to have a family, but she cannot find the right person to share her life with. In addition, she does not have any close friends, which is another reason she often feels alone.
Jane is a successful woman who has worked hard throughout her life. The hobby she enjoys the most is fashion and buying clothes for herself. I don’t think she is interested in money at all. There are a lot of clothes in her closet, but she does not mind having so many. As a matter of fact, she is pretty proud of her collection. It would take her a lifetime to wear all the clothes she owns. Despite that, she still finds it necessary to buy more from time to time.
How does she feel about shopping for clothes?
No word describes Jane’s happiness and satisfaction when she buys clothes. When Jane goes shopping for clothes, she feels triumph and excitement. Whenever she finds something she likes, she immediately buys it as soon as possible. It’s like she has been given a new lease on life. The confidence and beauty that clothes give her make her feel fantastic. For Jane, there is nothing better than buying clothes to reward her hard work and ease her loneliness.
Jane feels a sense of compensation when she shops. While picking out clothes, she can forget about her troubles in life. She enjoys this temporary escape. Shopping can take her mind off of stress or other things, regardless of how busy she is. She can just focus on shopping for a few hours and not worry about anything else.
How does her addiction affect her life?
With age, Jane finds that she needs to shop for clothes more and more to feel the same positive emotions. A few years ago, shopping for a few pieces in a month made her happy, but now she has to buy something almost daily to fulfill her emotional needs. She says getting something new is the only thing that is on her mind.
She’s unsure whether it’s because her tastes have changed or because she’s just not as happy with her life as she once was. Either way, it’s been a challenge to find ways to make her feel better. She’s tried other activities like vacations, but nothing seems to give her the same satisfaction as clothes shopping.
At first, Jane was hesitant to keep spending so much money on clothes when she could be using the money for other things. However, eventually, she realized that shopping was the only thing that made her feel satisfied anymore.
A few years ago, Jane spent just a fraction of her money on clothes. But now, sometimes, it is hard for her to pay the bills. She has used most of her savings and is considering taking out a loan just to be able to afford to live.
It will be a financial disaster for Jane if she keeps shopping like that. She has spent tens of thousands of dollars on clothes alone in the past year. Most of this clothing is never worn and ends up in the back of her closet. There is no doubt that Jane will quickly find herself in debt if she does not begin to be more mindful of her spending.
Fortunately, she is ready to change
When Jane realized she had a shopping addiction, she consulted a therapist. The therapist helped her understand why she was shopping so much and how to stop. She created a clothing budget and set limits for herself.
She has always wondered why she loves to shop so much. She just assumed that it was because she liked clothes. Having gone through some therapy sessions, Jane has realized her shopping addiction is caused by loneliness and depression. For the suffering she gets in life, she wants compensation.
She has always been a bit of a loner; when she’s feeling down, shopping is the only thing that makes her feel better. She does this to distract herself from her problems and temporarily forget how lonely and depressed she is.
After doing some more research, Jane enrolls in a program focusing on cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT).
People can change their thoughts and behavior with CBT. This type of therapy can be used to treat a wide variety of problems, including addiction problems. Jane struggles to change her thinking and behavior at first. But, with her therapist’s help, she slowly starts to improve. She learns how to deal with her cravings for shopping and how to resist temptation. As a result of months of therapy, Jane has begun to overcome her addiction.